Why does it is easy for us to assume the worst in a person?
Psychologically speaking, humans are naturally negative thinkers. Social psychologists say our mind is built to look for negative information. We tend to see the glass half empty.
It is also true on how we deal with other people. We assume the worst in a person, most especially the first time they disappointed us. One single moment of disappointment and it get stuck in our minds for a long time. Then, we generalize people. We tend to see everyone also disappointing us. The cycle goes on; we meet other people, only to end up thinking about their negative traits or their worst parts or their bad habits. In the end, we are unconsciously building a nation of hate towards people.
However, staying this way is a choice. We can either be comfortable with the negativity but we can also choose to start the positive. However, staying positive is an effort, a conscious effort; because as I’ve said earlier, our minds our wired to see the negatives of this world.
What if next time, even though people close to us keep on failing us, we choose to look for their best qualities? What if next time, before assuming the worst in a person, we see them as a human being, prone to faulty decision and screwed up life, yet, still has caring and humane heart? What if next time, we see the glass half-empty, instead of dwelling on its emptiness, we get a pitcher of water and fill it up, so that it may be full again?